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This is one of those books people assume they already understand, until they actually read it. Why Men Want Sex and Women Need Love by Barbara and Allan Pease doesn’t try to be polite. It tries to be accurate. And that’s what makes it uncomfortable in places and useful almost everywhere. The Peases approach attraction like detectives, not poets. They pull from biology, evolutionary psychology, neuroscience, and decades of observing real couples, then ask a blunt question: Why do men and women keep missing each other when they want connection so badly? The answer isn’t that one gender is shallow and the other emotional. It’s that men and women are often speaking entirely different emotional and biological languages and assuming the other hears the same meaning. This book strips romance down to its wiring. Not to ruin it, but to make it work. It doesn’t excuse bad behavior. It explains patterns. And once you understand the patterns, you stop personalizing things that were never personal ...